Comments on: Unlocked Doors, and Other Feats of Strength http://ideaschema.org/unlocked-doors-and-other-feats-of-strength/ Where Ideas Go to Grow Mon, 30 Aug 2010 23:50:27 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Megan M. http://ideaschema.org/unlocked-doors-and-other-feats-of-strength/comment-page-1/#comment-311 Megan M. Tue, 02 Feb 2010 22:15:09 +0000 http://ideaschema.org/?p=3620#comment-311 Wow -- and really, this is the other side of the coin here, because stuff can happen. And I think the trick is in knowing why you're doing something, feeling it out. If you're locking the doors because you intelligently know how easy it is for a dude to open the door and snatch your purse, it's incredibly sensible.<br><br>Me, I was doing it because of irrational fear and I <i>knew</i> it. But I could adjust and do it from an intelligent decision-making standpoint, and it would be a very different animal.<br><br>The really interesting part here is that we're all entirely capable of telling ourselves we're doing something because it's smart rather than because we're driven by anxiety. And if someone feels that their life is filled with too much stress from anxiety, figuring out why they make the decisions they do -- and experimenting with making different ones, in the face of that fear -- is probably a good way to start.<br><br>Thank you for sharing. I don't even REMEMBER all the people who told me stories like this, and it's nice to take a look at this side of things. Wow — and really, this is the other side of the coin here, because stuff can happen. And I think the trick is in knowing why you're doing something, feeling it out. If you're locking the doors because you intelligently know how easy it is for a dude to open the door and snatch your purse, it's incredibly sensible.

Me, I was doing it because of irrational fear and I knew it. But I could adjust and do it from an intelligent decision-making standpoint, and it would be a very different animal.

The really interesting part here is that we're all entirely capable of telling ourselves we're doing something because it's smart rather than because we're driven by anxiety. And if someone feels that their life is filled with too much stress from anxiety, figuring out why they make the decisions they do — and experimenting with making different ones, in the face of that fear — is probably a good way to start.

Thank you for sharing. I don't even REMEMBER all the people who told me stories like this, and it's nice to take a look at this side of things.

]]> By: Mary McRae http://ideaschema.org/unlocked-doors-and-other-feats-of-strength/comment-page-1/#comment-307 Mary McRae Tue, 02 Feb 2010 10:34:59 +0000 http://ideaschema.org/?p=3620#comment-307 Actually, over 30 years ago I had that very thing happen to me. On my way to the mall Christmas shopping, purse on the seat beside me, doors unlocked. Stopped at a red light, and just before it turned green and quick as can be, someone opened the door, took the purse, closed the door, and ran.<br><br> And just like wearing my seatbelt, if I happen to be driving somewhere where I might actually encounter a traffic light, I lock the doors. Actually, over 30 years ago I had that very thing happen to me. On my way to the mall Christmas shopping, purse on the seat beside me, doors unlocked. Stopped at a red light, and just before it turned green and quick as can be, someone opened the door, took the purse, closed the door, and ran.

And just like wearing my seatbelt, if I happen to be driving somewhere where I might actually encounter a traffic light, I lock the doors.

]]> By: Juli Fuchs-Musgrave http://ideaschema.org/unlocked-doors-and-other-feats-of-strength/comment-page-1/#comment-304 Juli Fuchs-Musgrave Mon, 01 Feb 2010 17:06:40 +0000 http://ideaschema.org/?p=3620#comment-304 Great post--Happy February. I do, DO have better things to do. Great post–Happy February. I do, DO have better things to do.

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